One way I have grown this year shows itself in my ability to emotionally regulate. An example would be when Michael has perhaps made a decision on impulse, acted on it, surprised me with it, and I do not exactly agree with or like it. I can remain calm. I can speak my truth clearly….
Tag: Emotional Regulation
55 Rules For Love – Rule #25 – Don’t Try To Change Each Other
Originally Published: July 23rd, 2020 Opposites Attract Michael and I’s differences, if not embraced, can become a source of many disagreements. Over the years, we’ve had space to grow and learn, to slowly accept our differences along a path of personal growth and mutual respect. Trying to change Michael is not respectful. We’re not growing…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #15 – Leave Drama Out Of It
Originally Published: March 7th, 2020 Life Skills Am I creating drama by blowing a situation out of proportion? Does my reaction match the circumstance? Am I responding skillfully? Creating drama, making something bigger than it needs to be, wastes energy. Life is challenging enough without making little things into bigger, dramatic episodes. S, 🌻
55 Rules For Love – Rule #5 – Don’t Say Words With The Intent To Hurt
Originally Published: January 15th, 2020 Hurt People Hurt People Hurt people hurt people. My husband Michael told me these simple and profound words a few years ago because when I was angry at him, I would lash out saying words to hurt that I would quickly regret. My transition over the years from lashing out…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #3 – Understand That Love Is A Mirror – It Will Show Us Who We Are If We Allow It To
Originally Published: January 12th, 2020 The mirror reveals all, even when we don’t want it to. Because it reveals when we don’t want it to. It reveals everything. Just make sure the person holding up the mirror is safe, respectful, communicative and can set healthy boundaries. S, ❤️
Reiki Principle For Today – I Will Do My Work Honestly
Originally Published: October 21st, 2019 Psychologist and researcher Joanne Davilla suggests 3 skills are necessary to be romantically competent and have healthy relationships with all people in our life: I ask myself: Do I authentically know what is right for me? Do I align my life with my values and beliefs? Do I authentically know…
Living With Borderline Personality Disorder – Overlapping Symptoms & What Type Of & How BPD Am I?
Overlapping Symtoms Diagnosing BPD can be quite challenging as its symptoms overlap the symptoms of other mental health disorders like: As well, BPD symptoms overlap the symptoms of neurodivergent minds like: For many years, I was misdiagnosed with PTSD, DDNOS and ADHD. CPTSD was even put on the table, just before my appropriate diagnosis of…
Forget Everything I’ve Said – I’ve Borderline Personality Disorder & Histrionic Personality Disorder
The Beginning of a New Journey February 9th, 2022. Diagnosis day, again. Last diagnosis days were over 20 years ago. This included four different diagnosis by experts – four different opinions on why I was the way I was. I’m over 20 years of living with a brain I somehow knew wasn’t operating properly. As…