My job is support staff within Nova Scotia’s public school system. I wish all schools introduced Dialectical Behaviour Therapy in the elementary grades. Then, continued to teach and practice its four core modules: Mindfulness, Emotional Regulation, Distress Tolerance and Interpersonal Effectiveness up until graduation. Imagine how much better the world would be if students practiced…
Tag: Emotional Regulation
Insights On Worry & Inner Peace
I am not impervious to worry. I still have moments of fear or self-doubt. What’s changed is my practiced ability to emotionally regulate and check the facts. It’s my practiced ability to be skillful and ask myself, “How important is this?” It’s asking myself, “Am I going to let this (person, place or thing) rob…
How I Practiced Emotional Regulation This Year
One way I have grown this year shows itself in my ability to emotionally regulate. An example would be when Michael has perhaps made a decision on impulse, acted on it, surprised me with it, and I do not exactly agree with or like it. I can remain calm. I can speak my truth clearly….
55 Rules For Love – Rule #25 – Don’t Try To Change Each Other
Originally Published: July 23rd, 2020 Opposites Attract Michael and I’s differences, if not embraced, can become a source of many disagreements. Over the years, we’ve had space to grow and learn, to slowly accept our differences along a path of personal growth and mutual respect. Trying to change Michael is not respectful. We’re not growing…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #15 – Leave Drama Out Of It
Originally Published: March 7th, 2020 Life Skills Am I creating drama by blowing a situation out of proportion? Does my reaction match the circumstance? Am I responding skillfully? Creating drama, making something bigger than it needs to be, wastes energy. Life is challenging enough without making little things into bigger, dramatic episodes. S, 🌻
55 Rules For Love – Rule #5 – Don’t Say Words With The Intent To Hurt
Originally Published: January 15th, 2020 Hurt People Hurt People Hurt people hurt people. My husband Michael told me these simple and profound words a few years ago because when I was angry at him, I would lash out saying words to hurt that I would quickly regret. My transition over the years from lashing out…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #3 – Understand That Love Is A Mirror – It Will Show Us Who We Are If We Allow It To
Originally Published: January 12th, 2020 The mirror reveals all, even when we don’t want it to. Because it reveals when we don’t want it to. It reveals everything. Just make sure the person holding up the mirror is safe, respectful, communicative and can set healthy boundaries. S, ❤️
Reiki Principle For Today – I Will Do My Work Honestly
Originally Published: October 21st, 2019 Psychologist and researcher Joanne Davilla suggests 3 skills are necessary to be romantically competent and have healthy relationships with all people in our life: I ask myself: Do I authentically know what is right for me? Do I align my life with my values and beliefs? Do I authentically know…