Originally Published: October 21st, 2019 Psychologist and researcher Joanne Davilla suggests 3 skills are necessary to be romantically competent and have healthy relationships with all people in our life: I ask myself: Do I authentically know what is right for me? Do I align my life with my values and beliefs? Do I authentically know…
Tag: Emotional Regulation
55 Rules For Love – Rule #25 – Don’t Try To Change Each Other
Originally published: July 23rd, 2020 Opposites Attract The differences that draw a couple together can become a source of many disagreements later in the relationship, if these differences are not embraced. However, there always has to be space to grow and learn as a couple embraces their differences along their path of personal growth and…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #15 – Leave Drama Out Of It
Originally published: March 7th, 2020 Revised and Edited: December 11th, 2024 Life Skills When I stick to my side of the street, life becomes so much more peaceful. Simple. Drama happens when I step onto another’s lane and make it my business when I have no right to be there; especially when I wasn’t invited….
55 Rules For Love – Rule #5 – Don’t Say Words With The Intent To Hurt
Originally published: January 15th, 2020 Hurt People Hurt Others My husband Michael told me these profound, yet simple words a few years ago. He said this to me because when I was angry at him, I would lash out saying words to hurt him that I would quickly regret. My transition from aggression and going…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #3 – Understand That Love Is A Mirror – It Will Show Us Who We Are If We Allow It To
Originally published: January 12th, 2020 My first thoughts on this are: IF WE ALLOW IT. If you’re in a relationship with someone who WILL NOT let their guard down, Will NOT be vulnerable or Will NOT be willing to emotionally connect or YOU WILL NOT let your guard down, YOU WILL NOT be vulnerable or…
Living With Borderline Personality Disorder – Overlapping Symptoms & What Type Of & How BPD Am I?
Overlapping Symtoms Diagnosing BPD can be quite challenging as its symptoms overlap the symptoms of other mental health disorders like: As well, BPD symptoms overlap the symptoms of neurodivergent minds like: For many years, I was misdiagnosed with PTSD, DDNOS and ADHD. CPTSD was even put on the table, just before my appropriate diagnosis of…
Forget Everything I’ve Said – I’ve Borderline Personality Disorder & Histrionic Personality Disorder
The Beginning of a New Journey February 9th, 2022. Diagnosis day, again. Last diagnosis days were over 20 years ago. This included four different diagnosis by experts – four different opinions on why I was the way I was. I’m over 20 years of living with a brain I somehow knew wasn’t operating properly. As…
AM I: In a Panic Attack or Trauma Response or Dissociation or Menopause? How Do I Tell The Difference?
This is my question for the morning as I ponder a rough night last night. Is what I went through a panic attack? A trauma response? Dissociation? Or menopause? Or, all of the above? It is not my first time having these stressful episodes that make me feel like I am loosing my mind, that…