Originally published: January 12th, 2020
My first thoughts on this are: IF WE ALLOW IT.
If you’re in a relationship with someone who WILL NOT let their guard down, Will NOT be vulnerable or Will NOT be willing to emotionally connect or YOU WILL NOT let your guard down, YOU WILL NOT be vulnerable or YOU WILL NOT emotionally connect, then love will never reflect the two hearts within.
How can someone mirror you if you won’t let them see your true self?
But then again, you can’t escape everyday life. When tough stuff happens and your significant other sees anger and aggression in you, your inability to emotionally regulate – you can’t avoid that.
Or how about the other end of the continuum when tough stuff happens and your signifiant other sees indifference, sticking your head in the sand – avoiding tough issues at all cost.
Therefore, this is what the mirror will reveal – that we try to hide behind aggression, masks, indifference and walls.
This is the journey, ‘eh, of allowing another to tell us this and be willing to hear it.
Then there are the tender moments.
Mirrors also reveal beauty, our true hearts, when we allow it.
Mirrors reveal the wondrous side of each other. Our gentle hearts, our laughter, our joy, our curiosity, our intelligence, our hearts in moments of vulnerably and love.
The question is, are you willing to be vulnerable enough to let another mirror you? Are you willing to let another hold the mirror up to reveal your vulnerable inner beauty and walk with you when your dark sides are revealed?
Just make sure the person holding up the mirror is safe, respectful and sets healthy boundaries with you when your dark side comes out.
But I think that is the entire point of this rule – if you’ve made it passed Rule #1 and Rule #2 – then Authentic Love is who is holding the mirror.
Authentic Love holds the mirror. Authentic Love helps us see us for who we really are. Right or wrong. Good or Bad. It is what it is. We are who we are. At this moment in time. Two imperfect people who see the perfect in each other.
S, ❤️
55 Rules For Love
Introduction Of My Blog Series On The “55 Rules For Love”
55 Rules For Love – Rule #1 – When It Arrives, Cherish It
55 Rules For Love – Rule #2 – Whatever You Accept, You Will Get
55 Rules For Love – Rule # 5 – Don’t Say Words With The Intent To Hurt
55 Rules For Love – Rule # 6 – Accept And Forgive Easily
55 Rules For Love – Rule #7 – Don’t Be Scared To Disagree, It Is Healthy
55 Rules For Love – Rule #8 – Never Be Too Busy For Each Other
55 Rules For Love – Rule #9 – Do Not Punish
55 Rules For Love – Rule #10 – Accept Honest Criticism, It Is Good For Us
55 Rules For Love – Rule #11 – Admit When You Are Wrong, Quickly
55 Rules For Love – Rule #12 – Support Each Other When The Going Gets Tough
55 Rules For Love – Rule # 13 – Live In The Moment – Be Present
55 Rules For Love – Rule #14 – Leave The Past Where It Belongs
55 Rules For Love – Rule #15 – Leave Drama Out Of It
55 Rules For Love – Rule #16 – Don’t Try To Control
55 Rules For Love – Rule #17 – Allow A Small Amount of Jealousy
55 Rules For Love – Rule #18 – Don’t Use Comparisons
55 Rules For Love – Rule #19 – Celebrate Differences
55 Rules For Love – Rule #20 – Communicate Openly and Honestly
55 Rules For Love – Rule #21 – Listen Very Carefully
55 Rules For Love – Rule #22 – Don’t Judge
55 Rules For Love – Rule # 23 – Don’t Manipulate To Get Results
55 Rules For Love – Rule # 24 – Learn and Grow
55 Rules For Love – Rule #25 – Don’t Try To Change Each Other
55 Rules For Love – Rule #26 – Don’t Condemn Each Other’s Family and Friends
55 Rules For Love – Rule #27 – Lines, Flaws and Imperfections are Beautiful
55 Rules For Love – Rule #28 – Trust Your Instincts, But Don’t Be Paranoid
55 Rules For Love – Rule #30 – Instead of Power, Aim For Balance
55 Rules for Love – Rule #31 – Space Is Needed To Breathe And To Grow
55 Rules for Love – Rule #32 – Accept That You Are Both Unique – Never Compare
55 Rules For Love – Rule #33 – Have Fun, Laugh and Play – A Lot
55 Rules For Love – Rule #34 – Be Each Other’s Best Friend
55 Rules For Love – Rule #35 – Don’t Play Mind Games
55 Rules For Love – Rule #36 – Do Not Carelessly Throw Away Love
55 Rules For Love – Rule #37 – Don’t Waste Energy With Negative Thoughts
55 Rules For Love – Rule #38 – Compliment Often
55 Rules For Love – Rule #39 – Discover Each Other
55 Rules For Love – Rule #40 – Be Attentive And Understand What’s Not Said
55 Rules For Love – Rule #41 – Do At Least One Romantic And Thoughtful Thing Every Day
55 Rules For Love – Rule #42 – Take Picnics And Sleep Under The Stars
55 Rules For Love – Rule #43 – Don’t Just Speak About It, Show Love
55 Rules For Love – Rule #44 – Walk Together, Cook Together, Bathe Together, Read Together
55 Rules For Love – Rule #45 – Do Not Be Afraid, Love Requires Surrender
55 Rules For Love – Rule #46 – Be Loyal And Faithful
55 Rules For Love – Rule #47 – Trust
55 Rules For Love – Rule # 48 – Be Grateful
55 Rules For Love – Rule #49 – Fluidity Is Good, Accept Change
55 Rules For Love – Rule #50 – Don’t Sleep On A Fight
55 Rules For Love – Rule #51 – Don’t Cling To It, Know When To Let Go
55 Rules For Love – Rule #52 – Discover What Turns You Both On And Explore It
55 Rules For Love – Rule #52 – Make Love, But Also F*ck (Regularly)
55 Rules For Love – Rule #54 – Give And Receive Without Measure
55 Rules For Love – Rule #55 – Never Gamble With What You Can’t Afford To Lose