55 Rules For Love – Rule #55 – Never Gamble With What You Can’t Afford To Lose

Originally published: August 4th, 2021

Edited & Revised: April 23rd, 2025


I once envied a marriage for the husband’s protective nature of his wife and his lavish gifts and lifestyle to his family. It was later discovered he had an entirely hidden life of cheating on his wife.

Some of my values were immature back then, and I learned this valuable lesson:

The grass is always greener over the septic tank!

You never know what is simmering beneath someone else’s “perfect looking” relationship.

It’s been my hard earned experience that if something is too good to be true, it usually is.


Quote - The Grass is Always Greener Over the Septic Tank



An immature love gambles with what they can’t afford to lose.

A mature love cherishes the value of each other and their marriage, while growing old together with grace, comfort and peace.

S, 🌻


August 18th, 2015 - Sandy Cove, Nova Scotia - Wedding Day - Husband and Wife - Joyful Stephanie
August 18th, 2015 – Sandy Cove, Nova Scotia – Wedding Day – Husband and Wife

March 14th, 2025 - East Hants, Nova Scotia - Penny Lane - Team Wells - Joyful Stephanie
March 14th, 2025 – East Hants, Nova Scotia – Penny Lane – Team Wells

Introduction Of My Blog Series On The “55 Rules For Love”

55 Rules For Love – Rule #1 – When It Arrives, Cherish It

55 Rules For Love – Rule #2 – Whatever You Accept, You Will Get

55 Rules For Love – Rule # 3 – Understand That Love Is A Mirror – It Will Show Us Who We Are If We Allow It To

55 Rules For Love – Rule #4 – Only We Can Make Ourselves Happy, It Is Not The Other Person’s Responsibility

55 Rules For Love – Rule # 5 – Don’t Say Words With The Intent To Hurt

55 Rules For Love – Rule # 6 – Accept And Forgive Easily

55 Rules For Love – Rule #7 – Don’t Be Scared To Disagree, It Is Healthy

55 Rules For Love – Rule #8 – Never Be Too Busy For Each Other

55 Rules For Love – Rule #9 – Do Not Punish

55 Rules For Love – Rule #10 – Accept Honest Criticism, It Is Good For Us

55 Rules For Love – Rule #11 – Admit When You Are Wrong, Quickly

55 Rules For Love – Rule #12 – Support Each Other When The Going Gets Tough

55 Rules For Love – Rule # 13 – Live In The Moment – Be Present

55 Rules For Love – Rule #14 – Leave The Past Where It Belongs

55 Rules For Love – Rule #15 – Leave Drama Out Of It

55 Rules For Love – Rule #16 – Don’t Try To Control

55 Rules For Love – Rule #17 – Allow A Small Amount of Jealousy

55 Rules For Love – Rule #18 – Don’t Use Comparisons

55 Rules For Love – Rule #19 – Celebrate Differences

55 Rules For Love – Rule #20 – Communicate Openly and Honestly

55 Rules For Love – Rule #21 – Listen Very Carefully

55 Rules For Love – Rule #22 – Don’t Judge

55 Rules For Love – Rule # 23 – Don’t Manipulate To Get Results

55 Rules For Love – Rule # 24 – Learn and Grow

55 Rules For Love – Rule #25 – Don’t Try To Change Each Other

55 Rules For Love – Rule #26 – Don’t Condemn Each Other’s Family and Friends

55 Rules For Love – Rule #27 – Lines, Flaws and Imperfections are Beautiful

55 Rules For Love – Rule #28 – Trust Your Instincts, But Don’t Be Paranoid

55 Rules For Love – Rule #29 – Don’t Compromise Your Morals And Values And Don’t Expect Them To Either

55 Rules For Love – Rule #30 – Instead of Power, Aim For Balance

55 Rules for Love – Rule #31 – Space Is Needed To Breathe And To Grow

55 Rules for Love – Rule #32 – Accept That You Are Both Unique – Never Compare

55 Rules For Love – Rule #33 – Have Fun, Laugh and Play – A Lot

55 Rules For Love – Rule #34 – Be Each Other’s Best Friend

55 Rules For Love – Rule #35 – Don’t Play Mind Games

55 Rules For Love – Rule #36 – Do Not Carelessly Throw Away Love

55 Rules For Love – Rule #37 – Don’t Waste Energy With Negative Thoughts

55 Rules For Love – Rule #38 – Compliment Often

55 Rules For Love – Rule #39 – Discover Each Other

55 Rules For Love – Rule #40 – Be Attentive And Understand What’s Not Said

55 Rules For Love – Rule #41 – Do At Least One Romantic And Thoughtful Thing Every Day

55 Rules For Love – Rule #42 – Take Picnics And Sleep Under The Stars

55 Rules For Love – Rule #43 – Don’t Just Speak About It, Show Love

55 Rules For Love – Rule #44 – Walk Together, Cook Together, Bathe Together, Read Together

55 Rules For Love – Rule #45 – Do Not Be Afraid, Love Requires Surrender

55 Rules For Love – Rule #46 – Be Loyal And Faithful

55 Rules For Love – Rule #47 – Trust

55 Rules For Love – Rule # 48 – Be Grateful

55 Rules For Love – Rule #49 – Fluidity Is Good, Accept Change

55 Rules For Love – Rule #50 – Don’t Sleep On A Fight

55 Rules For Love – Rule #51 – Don’t Cling To It, Know When To Let Go

55 Rules For Love – Rule #52 – Discover What Turns You Both On And Explore It

55 Rules For Love – Rule #52 – Make Love, But Also F*ck (Regularly)

55 Rules For Love – Rule #54 – Give And Receive Without Measure

55 Rules For Love – Rule #55 – Never Gamble With What You Can’t Afford To Lose



7 Comments Add yours

  1. mama says:

    Stephanie, the title of Rule#55 sums up all you have written about love and relationships.Love you lots, mama 💗💗💗and rule #55 🥰🤗🙏

    1. Thanks, mama!!! 🌼🎉💛

  2. Beautiful pictures Stéphanie 😍🧡😁

    1. Thank you Sara! How is your memoir progressing? 🌻💛☀️

      1. My pleasure Stephanie. Memoir is progressing slowly – I keep adding and editing! I have to put it away sometimes. I get too engrossed and I forget to eat and sleep. How are you?
        I hope all is well with you 🌞🌻🧡

      2. I get that! I become so hyper-focused on writing that 6 hours, even longer can pass and not eat! I have to force myself to take a break and clear my head for perspective. 🌟☀️💛🌻

      3. Yes, I get too engrossed – not always a good thing! 🙄🌻🌞🧡

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