Originally published: June 10th, 2021
Edited & Revised: April 15th, 2025
Sex Is Fun!
There is an entire world out there of ways to have fun with sex!
Find what works for you both and enjoy it!
Deepens Your Connection
Sex isn’t something to be shamed or judged.
It is as unique as you are, as fun as you are, as curious as you are, as erotic as you are.
It’s an enjoyable part of being human!
But, sex can get messy if your relationship isn’t rock solid.
Sex is one of the deepest forms of intimacy between lovers.
It takes a lot of maturity, trust, transparency, and confidence to fully explore what turns you both on.
Learn About Each Other
You can really learn more about each other as you each take courageous risks to share what turns you on.
This vulnerability also presents an opportunity to practice self-care skills such as assertiveness and boundaries if either you are unexpectedly triggered and need to stop.
Navigating through triggers by providing emotional support such as active listening, compassion, and empathy will bring you closer together.
How triggers are handled or not handled will possibly reflect issues you’ll need to work through before moving ahead.
Darkness to Light
There is a dark side to everything.
Sex is very much a part of that.
Your lenses, how you view sex, will of course come to light as you bravely step foot into exploring each other’s sexuality.
Sexual trauma might very well be in either of your histories.
If this is the case, perhaps intervention with a skilled therapist can help you heal past wounds together.
To take the darkness out of sex and turn it into an embodied, beautiful, sacred experience.
Sacredness
There is something so very sacred with feeling safe enough to share your deepest sexual fantasies and desires with each other; to fully discover what turns each other on and explore it.
Spiritual teacher and author, Eckhart Tolle talks about people loving at their level of consciousness.
It takes an exceptional amount of consciousness to navigate a rich and satisfying sex life together with the purpose of enhancing your emotional and physical connectedness.
Turned On To Life – Passion
Michael, my husband, had a great thought.
He added that there are other ways to be “turned on” beyond sexually.
This is when you take a deep dive into the experience of whatever exciting moment you’re into, be it archeology, basketball, golfing, playing music, or snorkelling with sea turtles.
It is the awakening or experiencing a passion for life.
Your Life Is Now
Now, at the other side of 50 years old, I am acutely aware of how valuable time is.
Every moment that passes takes me closer to the end of my life.
I am so very aware that EVERY MOMENT in my life matters.
Every moment.
When I’m at the end of my life, I want to look back without regret because I lived.
I risked.
I loved, whole heartedly.
Life isn’t a dress rehearsal.
Your life is now.
Discover what turns you on, and explore it!
S, 🔥
55 Rules For Love
Introduction Of My Blog Series On The “55 Rules For Love”
55 Rules For Love – Rule #1 – When It Arrives, Cherish It
55 Rules For Love – Rule #2 – Whatever You Accept, You Will Get
55 Rules For Love – Rule # 5 – Don’t Say Words With The Intent To Hurt
55 Rules For Love – Rule # 6 – Accept And Forgive Easily
55 Rules For Love – Rule #7 – Don’t Be Scared To Disagree, It Is Healthy
55 Rules For Love – Rule #8 – Never Be Too Busy For Each Other
55 Rules For Love – Rule #9 – Do Not Punish
55 Rules For Love – Rule #10 – Accept Honest Criticism, It Is Good For Us
55 Rules For Love – Rule #11 – Admit When You Are Wrong, Quickly
55 Rules For Love – Rule #12 – Support Each Other When The Going Gets Tough
55 Rules For Love – Rule # 13 – Live In The Moment – Be Present
55 Rules For Love – Rule #14 – Leave The Past Where It Belongs
55 Rules For Love – Rule #15 – Leave Drama Out Of It
55 Rules For Love – Rule #16 – Don’t Try To Control
55 Rules For Love – Rule #17 – Allow A Small Amount of Jealousy
55 Rules For Love – Rule #18 – Don’t Use Comparisons
55 Rules For Love – Rule #19 – Celebrate Differences
55 Rules For Love – Rule #20 – Communicate Openly and Honestly
55 Rules For Love – Rule #21 – Listen Very Carefully
55 Rules For Love – Rule #22 – Don’t Judge
55 Rules For Love – Rule # 23 – Don’t Manipulate To Get Results
55 Rules For Love – Rule # 24 – Learn and Grow
55 Rules For Love – Rule #25 – Don’t Try To Change Each Other
55 Rules For Love – Rule #26 – Don’t Condemn Each Other’s Family and Friends
55 Rules For Love – Rule #27 – Lines, Flaws and Imperfections are Beautiful
55 Rules For Love – Rule #28 – Trust Your Instincts, But Don’t Be Paranoid
55 Rules For Love – Rule #30 – Instead of Power, Aim For Balance
55 Rules for Love – Rule #31 – Space Is Needed To Breathe And To Grow
55 Rules for Love – Rule #32 – Accept That You Are Both Unique – Never Compare
55 Rules For Love – Rule #33 – Have Fun, Laugh and Play – A Lot
55 Rules For Love – Rule #34 – Be Each Other’s Best Friend
55 Rules For Love – Rule #35 – Don’t Play Mind Games
55 Rules For Love – Rule #36 – Do Not Carelessly Throw Away Love
55 Rules For Love – Rule #37 – Don’t Waste Energy With Negative Thoughts
55 Rules For Love – Rule #38 – Compliment Often
55 Rules For Love – Rule #39 – Discover Each Other
55 Rules For Love – Rule #40 – Be Attentive And Understand What’s Not Said
55 Rules For Love – Rule #41 – Do At Least One Romantic And Thoughtful Thing Every Day
55 Rules For Love – Rule #42 – Take Picnics And Sleep Under The Stars
55 Rules For Love – Rule #43 – Don’t Just Speak About It, Show Love
55 Rules For Love – Rule #44 – Walk Together, Cook Together, Bathe Together, Read Together
55 Rules For Love – Rule #45 – Do Not Be Afraid, Love Requires Surrender
55 Rules For Love – Rule #46 – Be Loyal And Faithful
55 Rules For Love – Rule #47 – Trust
55 Rules For Love – Rule # 48 – Be Grateful
55 Rules For Love – Rule #49 – Fluidity Is Good, Accept Change
55 Rules For Love – Rule #50 – Don’t Sleep On A Fight
55 Rules For Love – Rule #51 – Don’t Cling To It, Know When To Let Go
55 Rules For Love – Rule #52 – Discover What Turns You Both On And Explore It
55 Rules For Love – Rule #52 – Make Love, But Also F*ck (Regularly)
55 Rules For Love – Rule #54 – Give And Receive Without Measure
55 Rules For Love – Rule #55 – Never Gamble With What You Can’t Afford To Lose