Originally published: March 21st, 2021
Edited & Revised: March 18th, 2025
Romantic Things
Michael and I thought about examples in our every day life of how we are romantic with each other.
It took a bit of brainstorming – because, honestly – we’re conditioned to think of romantic things as those large, sweeping gestures one tends to watch in movies.
After a long week at work paired with a never-ending to-do list on the weekend, romantic gestures of the Hollywood scale are saved for weekend getaways – where hotel staff do the cleaning, cooking, and serve the meals; affording us the energy needed to spend a few hours enjoying massage oil.
Michael and I agreed a romantic thing, an intimate gesture each day can be as doable as sending “I LoveYou” Bitmoji text messages and snuggling before we fall asleep.
Thoughtful Things
To be thoughtful is to be considerate of each other’s needs and values.
A few of Michael’s daily thoughtful things are: cleaning up after himself during the day so I don’t have to clean up after him when I arrive home from work, and after a stressful workday greeting me with a much needed supportive hug when I walk through the door.
A few of my daily thoughtful things are: bringing Michael his morning coffee in bed and having ready to eat healthy meals for him in the fridge when he takes a break during the day.
Springtime in Paris
Spending a week in Paris as the season of spring brought a feeling of romance to an already romantic city, isn’t a great example of a small gesture of romance and thoughtfulness – but I include it here because writing this blog brings me back to a moment we shared in the Eiffel Tower.
We climbed the 674 steps* to the tower’s second level and shared a kiss!
Love is a verb. Love is action.
To do acts of romance and thoughtfulness each day requires mindfulness, and action.
The payoff is certainly worth it!
S, ❤️
*Climb the Eiffel Tower on Foot – The Eiffel Tower Official Website
55 Rules For Love
Introduction Of My Blog Series On The “55 Rules For Love”
55 Rules For Love – Rule #1 – When It Arrives, Cherish It
55 Rules For Love – Rule #2 – Whatever You Accept, You Will Get
55 Rules For Love – Rule # 5 – Don’t Say Words With The Intent To Hurt
55 Rules For Love – Rule # 6 – Accept And Forgive Easily
55 Rules For Love – Rule #7 – Don’t Be Scared To Disagree, It Is Healthy
55 Rules For Love – Rule #8 – Never Be Too Busy For Each Other
55 Rules For Love – Rule #9 – Do Not Punish
55 Rules For Love – Rule #10 – Accept Honest Criticism, It Is Good For Us
55 Rules For Love – Rule #11 – Admit When You Are Wrong, Quickly
55 Rules For Love – Rule #12 – Support Each Other When The Going Gets Tough
55 Rules For Love – Rule # 13 – Live In The Moment – Be Present
55 Rules For Love – Rule #14 – Leave The Past Where It Belongs
55 Rules For Love – Rule #15 – Leave Drama Out Of It
55 Rules For Love – Rule #16 – Don’t Try To Control
55 Rules For Love – Rule #17 – Allow A Small Amount of Jealousy
55 Rules For Love – Rule #18 – Don’t Use Comparisons
55 Rules For Love – Rule #19 – Celebrate Differences
55 Rules For Love – Rule #20 – Communicate Openly and Honestly
55 Rules For Love – Rule #21 – Listen Very Carefully
55 Rules For Love – Rule #22 – Don’t Judge
55 Rules For Love – Rule # 23 – Don’t Manipulate To Get Results
55 Rules For Love – Rule # 24 – Learn and Grow
55 Rules For Love – Rule #25 – Don’t Try To Change Each Other
55 Rules For Love – Rule #26 – Don’t Condemn Each Other’s Family and Friends
55 Rules For Love – Rule #27 – Lines, Flaws and Imperfections are Beautiful
55 Rules For Love – Rule #28 – Trust Your Instincts, But Don’t Be Paranoid
55 Rules For Love – Rule #30 – Instead of Power, Aim For Balance
55 Rules for Love – Rule #31 – Space Is Needed To Breathe And To Grow
55 Rules for Love – Rule #32 – Accept That You Are Both Unique – Never Compare
55 Rules For Love – Rule #33 – Have Fun, Laugh and Play – A Lot
55 Rules For Love – Rule #34 – Be Each Other’s Best Friend
55 Rules For Love – Rule #35 – Don’t Play Mind Games
55 Rules For Love – Rule #36 – Do Not Carelessly Throw Away Love
55 Rules For Love – Rule #37 – Don’t Waste Energy With Negative Thoughts
55 Rules For Love – Rule #38 – Compliment Often
55 Rules For Love – Rule #39 – Discover Each Other
55 Rules For Love – Rule #40 – Be Attentive And Understand What’s Not Said
55 Rules For Love – Rule #41 – Do At Least One Romantic And Thoughtful Thing Every Day
55 Rules For Love – Rule #42 – Take Picnics And Sleep Under The Stars
55 Rules For Love – Rule #43 – Don’t Just Speak About It, Show Love
55 Rules For Love – Rule #44 – Walk Together, Cook Together, Bathe Together, Read Together
55 Rules For Love – Rule #45 – Do Not Be Afraid, Love Requires Surrender
55 Rules For Love – Rule #46 – Be Loyal And Faithful
55 Rules For Love – Rule #47 – Trust
55 Rules For Love – Rule # 48 – Be Grateful
55 Rules For Love – Rule #49 – Fluidity Is Good, Accept Change
55 Rules For Love – Rule #50 – Don’t Sleep On A Fight
55 Rules For Love – Rule #51 – Don’t Cling To It, Know When To Let Go
55 Rules For Love – Rule #52 – Discover What Turns You Both On And Explore It
55 Rules For Love – Rule #52 – Make Love, But Also F*ck (Regularly)
55 Rules For Love – Rule #54 – Give And Receive Without Measure
55 Rules For Love – Rule #55 – Never Gamble With What You Can’t Afford To Lose
Those thoughtful things are so important!
100% agreed! 🌻☀️🌻
Love is like a fire—it doesn’t need grand explosions to stay warm. A small spark every day is enough. A kind word, a soft glance, a simple “I’m thinking of you” can keep the flame alive.
People think love fades with time, but maybe it just waits for attention. Like a plant, it doesn’t demand endless water, just regular care. Neglect it, and it wilts. Nurture it, and it grows strong.
Maybe the secret isn’t in big moments, but in the quiet, ordinary ones. A cup of coffee made with love. A silly joke shared before bed. A gentle touch when words aren’t needed. In the end, love isn’t about grand gestures—it’s about showing up, every single day.
Your thoughts on love is so beautifully written. Thank you for sharing. 🌻💛☀️