Originally published: April 10th, 2020

Revised & Edited: December 20th, 2024

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Opposites Attract

Many books and movies, within a variety of genres, have exampled opposites attracting.

Star Wars couple, Han and Leia, model this perfectly!

He is the bad-boy rebel scoundrel who later becomes a war hero.

She is the princess of the planet Alderaan, member of the Imperial Senate and agent of the Rebel Alliance.

They are very different, indeed!

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Acceptance & Respect

It is how we handle our differences that will pave either a smooth or bumpy road together.

I believe accepting and respecting our differences is a big part of this.

Then, by seeing each other as we truly are and respecting this, we move easily into celebrating our differences.

Seeing The Reality

My husband and I are opposite from each other in a few ways:

• He is quietly contemplative, and stoic
• I am overtly contemplative and expressive
• I am quick to worry and reactive
• He doesn’t seem to worry and takes everything in stride
• I work at one task at a time to completion, then start the next
• He has five tasks on the go, hops back and forth from each, mostly to completion
• I am highly organized and list driven
• He keeps a mental list and sees organization in his many piles of paperwork
• He is curious and has an insatiable appetite for learning
• I am easily overwhelmed and learn one new thing at a time

Sometimes, our patience is tested.

An example would be if I am worried about something and he doesn’t seem bothered by it. This stresses me out because I think he isn’t taking something seriously enough. His patience is tested when I am worried about something, creating stressful energy around us, when he doesn’t see the need to worry.

If both of us were a worry-wart like I am, we’d trigger each other, get caught up in a panic loop and always be stressed over something!

If both of us were as laid back as my husband, and didn’t think ahead of possible issues, possible “what-ifs”, troubleshooting as I like to call it, then we would never be prepared.

Finding Balance

Balance is an overused word, but needed when opposites attract!

Finding this balance is very much like being on a seesaw.

Some days are up, some days are down; sometimes we’re finding just the right amount of balance and existing in harmony.

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Two Imperfect People – Perfect For Each Other.

For us, finding this balance has been seeing how beneficial my husband’s personalty traits are to him and our marriage and how my personality traits are beneficial to me and our marriage.

I believe with more time and history a marriage has, along with embracing each other’s differences, this builds a strong anchor through the hills and valleys of life you face together.

S, ❤️

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55 Rules For Love

Introduction Of My Blog Series On The “55 Rules For Love”

55 Rules For Love – Rule #1 – When It Arrives, Cherish It

55 Rules For Love – Rule #2 – Whatever You Accept, You Will Get

55 Rules For Love – Rule # 3 – Understand That Love Is A Mirror – It Will Show Us Who We Are If We Allow It To

55 Rules For Love – Rule #4 – Only We Can Make Ourselves Happy, It Is Not The Other Person’s Responsibility

55 Rules For Love – Rule # 5 – Don’t Say Words With The Intent To Hurt

55 Rules For Love – Rule # 6 – Accept And Forgive Easily

55 Rules For Love – Rule #7 – Don’t Be Scared To Disagree, It Is Healthy

55 Rules For Love – Rule #8 – Never Be Too Busy For Each Other

55 Rules For Love – Rule #9 – Do Not Punish

55 Rules For Love – Rule #10 – Accept Honest Criticism, It Is Good For Us

55 Rules For Love – Rule #11 – Admit When You Are Wrong, Quickly

55 Rules For Love – Rule #12 – Support Each Other When The Going Gets Tough

55 Rules For Love – Rule # 13 – Live In The Moment – Be Present

55 Rules For Love – Rule #14 – Leave The Past Where It Belongs

55 Rules For Love – Rule #15 – Leave Drama Out Of It

55 Rules For Love – Rule #16 – Don’t Try To Control

55 Rules For Love – Rule #17 – Allow A Small Amount of Jealousy

55 Rules For Love – Rule #18 – Don’t Use Comparisons

55 Rules For Love – Rule #19 – Celebrate Differences

55 Rules For Love – Rule #20 – Communicate Openly and Honestly

55 Rules For Love – Rule #21 – Listen Very Carefully

55 Rules For Love – Rule #22 – Don’t Judge

55 Rules For Love – Rule # 23 – Don’t Manipulate To Get Results

55 Rules For Love – Rule # 24 – Learn and Grow

55 Rules For Love – Rule #25 – Don’t Try To Change Each Other

55 Rules For Love – Rule #26 – Don’t Condemn Each Other’s Family and Friends

55 Rules For Love – Rule #27 – Lines, Flaws and Imperfections are Beautiful

55 Rules For Love – Rule #28 – Trust Your Instincts, But Don’t Be Paranoid

55 Rules For Love – Rule #29 – Don’t Compromise Your Morals And Values And Don’t Expect Them To Either

55 Rules For Love – Rule #30 – Instead of Power, Aim For Balance

55 Rules for Love – Rule #31 – Space Is Needed To Breathe And To Grow

55 Rules for Love – Rule #32 – Accept That You Are Both Unique – Never Compare

55 Rules For Love – Rule #33 – Have Fun, Laugh and Play – A Lot

55 Rules For Love – Rule #34 – Be Each Other’s Best Friend

55 Rules For Love – Rule #35 – Don’t Play Mind Games

55 Rules For Love – Rule #36 – Do Not Carelessly Throw Away Love

55 Rules For Love – Rule #37 – Don’t Waste Energy With Negative Thoughts

55 Rules For Love – Rule #38 – Compliment Often

55 Rules For Love – Rule #39 – Discover Each Other

55 Rules For Love – Rule #40 – Be Attentive And Understand What’s Not Said

55 Rules For Love – Rule #41 – Do At Least One Romantic And Thoughtful Thing Every Day

55 Rules For Love – Rule #42 – Take Picnics And Sleep Under The Stars

55 Rules For Love – Rule #43 – Don’t Just Speak About It, Show Love

55 Rules For Love – Rule #44 – Walk Together, Cook Together, Bathe Together, Read Together

55 Rules For Love – Rule #45 – Do Not Be Afraid, Love Requires Surrender

55 Rules For Love – Rule #46 – Be Loyal And Faithful

55 Rules For Love – Rule #47 – Trust

55 Rules For Love – Rule # 48 – Be Grateful

55 Rules For Love – Rule #49 – Fluidity Is Good, Accept Change

55 Rules For Love – Rule #50 – Don’t Sleep On A Fight

55 Rules For Love – Rule #51 – Don’t Cling To It, Know When To Let Go

55 Rules For Love – Rule #52 – Discover What Turns You Both On And Explore It

55 Rules For Love – Rule #52 – Make Love, But Also F*ck (Regularly)

55 Rules For Love – Rule #54 – Give And Receive Without Measure

55 Rules For Love – Rule #55 – Never Gamble With What You Can’t Afford To Lose

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