Originally published: February 8th, 2020
Revised & Edited: December 8th, 2024
Supporting each other when the going gets tough has been a challenging journey for Michael and I as we are very different in what we define as and how we deal with stressful situations.
I am emotional.
Having Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) adds to my emotional intensity, however I have Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) skills to regulate and be skillful when the going gets tough.
Michael is logical.
Most things roll off him like water on a duck; almost to the point where he appears indifferent or oblivious to challenging situations.
At almost 10 years of marriage, we have come a long way in how we support each other when the going gets tough because we accept I am emotional and he is logical.
As well, when the going gets tough, this alcoholic no longer drinks alcohol to cope with it.
I face life on life’s terms – skillfully and sober.
As each other’s best friend, we will always be there for each other, even if we stumble and fall along the way; because one of us will always help the other up with a hand of love.
S, 💙
55 Rules For Love
Introduction Of My Blog Series On The “55 Rules For Love”
55 Rules For Love – Rule #1 – When It Arrives, Cherish It
55 Rules For Love – Rule #2 – Whatever You Accept, You Will Get
55 Rules For Love – Rule # 5 – Don’t Say Words With The Intent To Hurt
55 Rules For Love – Rule # 6 – Accept And Forgive Easily
55 Rules For Love – Rule #7 – Don’t Be Scared To Disagree, It Is Healthy
55 Rules For Love – Rule #8 – Never Be Too Busy For Each Other
55 Rules For Love – Rule #9 – Do Not Punish
55 Rules For Love – Rule #10 – Accept Honest Criticism, It Is Good For Us
55 Rules For Love – Rule #11 – Admit When You Are Wrong, Quickly
55 Rules For Love – Rule #12 – Support Each Other When The Going Gets Tough
55 Rules For Love – Rule # 13 – Live In The Moment – Be Present
55 Rules For Love – Rule #14 – Leave The Past Where It Belongs
55 Rules For Love – Rule #15 – Leave Drama Out Of It
55 Rules For Love – Rule #16 – Don’t Try To Control
55 Rules For Love – Rule #17 – Allow A Small Amount of Jealousy
55 Rules For Love – Rule #18 – Don’t Use Comparisons
55 Rules For Love – Rule #19 – Celebrate Differences
55 Rules For Love – Rule #20 – Communicate Openly and Honestly
55 Rules For Love – Rule #21 – Listen Very Carefully
55 Rules For Love – Rule #22 – Don’t Judge
55 Rules For Love – Rule # 23 – Don’t Manipulate To Get Results
55 Rules For Love – Rule # 24 – Learn and Grow
55 Rules For Love – Rule #25 – Don’t Try To Change Each Other
55 Rules For Love – Rule #26 – Don’t Condemn Each Other’s Family and Friends
55 Rules For Love – Rule #27 – Lines, Flaws and Imperfections are Beautiful
55 Rules For Love – Rule #28 – Trust Your Instincts, But Don’t Be Paranoid
55 Rules For Love – Rule #30 – Instead of Power, Aim For Balance
55 Rules for Love – Rule #31 – Space Is Needed To Breathe And To Grow
55 Rules for Love – Rule #32 – Accept That You Are Both Unique – Never Compare
55 Rules For Love – Rule #33 – Have Fun, Laugh and Play – A Lot
55 Rules For Love – Rule #34 – Be Each Other’s Best Friend
55 Rules For Love – Rule #35 – Don’t Play Mind Games
55 Rules For Love – Rule #36 – Do Not Carelessly Throw Away Love
55 Rules For Love – Rule #37 – Don’t Waste Energy With Negative Thoughts
55 Rules For Love – Rule #38 – Compliment Often
55 Rules For Love – Rule #39 – Discover Each Other
55 Rules For Love – Rule #40 – Be Attentive And Understand What’s Not Said
55 Rules For Love – Rule #41 – Do At Least One Romantic And Thoughtful Thing Every Day
55 Rules For Love – Rule #42 – Take Picnics And Sleep Under The Stars
55 Rules For Love – Rule #43 – Don’t Just Speak About It, Show Love
55 Rules For Love – Rule #44 – Walk Together, Cook Together, Bathe Together, Read Together
55 Rules For Love – Rule #45 – Do Not Be Afraid, Love Requires Surrender
55 Rules For Love – Rule #46 – Be Loyal And Faithful
55 Rules For Love – Rule #47 – Trust
55 Rules For Love – Rule # 48 – Be Grateful
55 Rules For Love – Rule #49 – Fluidity Is Good, Accept Change
55 Rules For Love – Rule #50 – Don’t Sleep On A Fight
55 Rules For Love – Rule #51 – Don’t Cling To It, Know When To Let Go
55 Rules For Love – Rule #52 – Discover What Turns You Both On And Explore It
55 Rules For Love – Rule #52 – Make Love, But Also F*ck (Regularly)
55 Rules For Love – Rule #54 – Give And Receive Without Measure
55 Rules For Love – Rule #55 – Never Gamble With What You Can’t Afford To Lose
I so understand how you are feeling with missing your husband Stephanie . I have been a situation quite a few years ago when my husband was on a remote military assignment in Korea and I was back in Florida with my daughter.
I was overseeing a new house that was being built for us.
I was on many days at my wit’s end but it was the love between my husband and I that pulled me through .
You are a warrior and I know you will come through all of your days and you will be all the better for the struggles and life will be beautiful just like your beautiful smile. Sending love
Thank you Margie…..❤️
You are so welcome. ❤️ if I helped I am grateful. Oh, and then my husband came down with spinal meningitis and was in a coma for two weeks and as close to dying as one could possibly come.
He was in the military hospital for three months and I went to Seoul to help in his recovery and here we are today , loving and happy .
Silly husband put me through the wingers lol
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Life sure has a way of testing us, ‘eh! Thank you for sharing your stories with me!! It helps… <3 <3 <3 ps… husbands!! What they put us through!! 😉 😉 😉 I'm relieved your husband made it through and is with you today!!! <3
Amen on that.Guses it’s true about what does not kill us makes us stronger .
Have a peaceful and restful evening Stephanie ❤️
You too Margie…. ❤️
I meant guess .I do know how to spell. Lol
🙂 🙂 🙂
Oh, my email is margiekap@comcast.net. thanks Stephanie.
Excellent!! I’ll see that I get the first chapter sent out to you within the next couple of days!! ❤️
Thank you ❤️