Originally Published: May 13th, 2020 Judgement vs Opinion My first thought is what exactly is the difference between a judgment and an opinion? The Internet tells me this: An opinion is what I think any given thing “should be”, not necessarily based on facts or knowledge. A judgement is the result of the facts of…
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55 Rules For Love – Rule #21 – Listen Very Carefully
Originally Published: May 9th, 2020 Start With Active Listening Three Steps to Active Listening: Content And Paraphrasing – this is the ability to detach from your own brain and interpretation to actually repeat back what your partner has said. Example: If I hear you correctly, what you’re saying is…. Reflect Emotional Content – this is…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #20 – Communicate Openly and Honestly
Originally Published: May 2nd, 2020 Michael and I’s communication styles are very different. I tend to worry, am reactive and very expressive. My husband lets life roll, for the most part stays calm while keeping his thoughts to himself. When conflict arrises between us, I want to jump right in and deal with it –…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #19 – Celebrate Differences
Originally published: April 10th, 2020 Opposites Attract Many books and movies, within a variety of genres, have exampled opposites attracting. Star Wars couple, Han and Leia, model this perfectly! He is the bad-boy rebel scoundrel who later becomes a war hero. She is the princess of the planet Alderaan, member of the Imperial Senate and…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #18 – Don’t Use Comparisons
Originally Published: March 29th, 2020 Types of Comparisons Comparisons are sure death to deepening a connection in a relationship. There are, in my thoughts, three ways to compare in a relationship – because I have done all three: Sign Of The Times – Comparisons During The COVID Pandemic During these days of the COVID-19 pandemic,…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #17 – Allow A Small Amount of Jealousy
Originally Published: March 24th, 2020 I believe a wee bit of jealousy is healthy in a relationship. Within the dynamic fibres woven into a marriage is the expression of making each other feel special. You are important to me, I value you and I will show you this, each and every day. A wee bit…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #16 – Don’t Try To Control
Originally Published: March 17th, 2020 Types of Control? According to PsychCentral: Why? Why do controllers need to instruct others on who they are, how they should feel, what they should think and how they should act? Why do we try to control someone? Difficult to know. My wanting to control Michael is typically fear-based. I…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #15 – Leave Drama Out Of It
Originally Published: March 7th, 2020 Life Skills Am I creating drama by blowing a situation out of proportion? Does my reaction match the circumstance? Am I responding skillfully? Creating drama, making something bigger than it needs to be, wastes energy. Life is challenging enough without making little things into bigger, dramatic episodes. S, 🌻