Originally Published: November 8th, 2020 Power Vs Control My first thought on this rule is what is the difference between having power over someone vs having control over someone? Google’s definition of power is: the capacity or ability to direct or influence the behavior of others or the course of events. Google’s definition of control…
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55 Rules For Love – Rule #29 – Don’t Compromise Your Morals And Values And Don’t Expect Them To Either
Originally Published: October 14th, 2020 If Michael and I are rather rigid about our morals and values, and they differ from the other, this will create conflict within our marriage. Examples would be our views on: religion, finances, alcohol, drugs, gambling, honesty, integrity, raising children or politics. These issues can be deal breakers. I know…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #28 – Trust Your Instincts, But Don’t Be Paranoid
Originally Published: October 10th, 2020 Diagnoses Trust has always been a challenge for me. When I was a little girl, my mother divorced my alcoholic, biological father who cheated on her. Within my little heart, this heartbreak created a seed core belief of men cannot be trusted. On February 9th, 2022 – I was diagnosed…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #27 – Lines, Flaws and Imperfections are Beautiful
Originally Published: October 6th, 2020 Lines, Flaws and Imperfections = Vulnerability Recently, while hiking with my husband Michael, I reflected on how beauty is in the eye of the beholder. My thought was – what makes someone most beautiful is their ability to be vulnerable. Vulnerability softens. The lines, flaws and imperfections of the physical…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #26 – Don’t Condemn Each Other’s Family and Friends
Originally Published: October 3rd, 2020 Everyone Has An Opinion Yes, we do. But are my opinions of Michael’s family and friends based on loving acceptance or from lenses of fear and hurt? Mind you, there may be a few behaviours of his family or friends that do not align with my values. Hopefully, I am…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #25 – Don’t Try To Change Each Other
Originally Published: July 23rd, 2020 Opposites Attract Michael and I’s differences, if not embraced, can become a source of many disagreements. Over the years, we’ve had space to grow and learn, to slowly accept our differences along a path of personal growth and mutual respect. Trying to change Michael is not respectful. We’re not growing…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #24 – Learn and Grow
Originally Published: July 12th, 2020 Ways to Learn I’m thinking there are two ways a couple can learn: Ways to Grow – Working Together Growing as a couple can blossom while working on a hobby or project together, as this will inevitably bring about how we communicate, collaborate and cooperate with each other. Michael and…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #23 – Don’t Manipulate To Get Results
Originally Published: May 22nd, 2020 Manipulation Means? According to Dictionary.com, the definition of manipulation is: ..influencing or attempting to influence the behavior or emotions of others for one’s own purposes: ex: a manipulative boss. Psychology Today Canada defines psychological manipulation as a person used for the benefit of the other – there is not a…