How do you stay resilient in hard times?
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Over the decades, I’ve faced many hard times, and I’ve grown from being a complete train wreck in the midst of them to meeting life with calm, skillful resilience.
Living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), I’ve slowly developed the skill of resilience through what Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) calls Distress Tolerance, which helps me cope with intense emotions and gradually strengthens my ability to bounce back.
Now, during hard times, I have a tool box of skills to use:
- Remind myself that “This Too Shall Pass”
- That I’ve been through hard times before, and I can skillfully get through this again
- To check the facts – observe – look around
- To mindfully observe intense emotions with curiosity
- Get outside of my head and talk with trusted people
- Self-care – exercise, sleep and healthier eating choices
S, 🌻
