Suggestible & Easily Influenced I recognize suggestible and easily influenced as a pathological style of people pleasing to the point where I adopted another’s value to be accepted by them, as well as a way to retain their attention. While taking an Addictions Counselling Course back in 1999, the psychologist teaching Counselling Skills Levels I…
Tag: Living with Borderline Personality Disorder
“And We Have Ceased Fighting Anything Or Anyone…”
As I approach my 56th birthday, I took Socrates’ sage advice to examine my life, my journey since that monumental day of turning a half century old – 50. I created a visual, linear reflection with photos, recalling where I’ve been up to now. Embracing 50: Wanting Freedom From Emotional & Cognitive Suffering Embracing 50:…
Living With Histrionic Personality Disorder – Sexually Provocative Behaviour
Sexually Provocative Behavior It was January, 1997. At 27 years old, I was going for it. I wanted to be a somebody in Halifax – in the up-and-coming explosion of film and television productions throughout Nova Scotia. As newly ordained and completely naive manager (and soon-to-be scapegoat for the restaurant’s failure) of Robert McKelvie’s Pastavino…
Living With Histrionic Personality Disorder – Shallow, Changeable Emotions
Shallow, Changeable Emotions What does it mean to have shallow, changeable emotions? Basically, it is to be quick to anger or tears, but not a lot of complex emotions underneath. The emotions seem immature and superficial. I know how this feels. Describing it is the challenge. Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a flooding of a…
Living With Borderline Personally Disorder – DBT – Skills Thermometer – A DBT Skills Anchor Chart
DBT Skills Thermometer Once the group went through the 4 DBT sections of Mindfulness, Distress Tolerance, Emotional Regulation and Interpersonal Effectiveness, this lovely Cheat Sheet or Anchor Chart was given to us as a sort of wrap up of the skills and the group. I find it so very helpful. Perhaps, this can help you,…
Living With Borderline Personality Disorder – Highlights Of DBT’s Interpersonal Effectiveness Skills
DBT & Interpersonal Effectiveness Skills Goals of Interpersonal Effectiveness: Factors in the Way of Interpersonal Effectiveness: Objectives – Obtaining Them Skillfully: Clarifying Goals In Interpersonal Situations: Guidelines For Objectives Effectiveness: Getting What I Want (DEAR MAN) Guidelines For Relationship Effectiveness: Keeping The Relationship (GIVE) Guidelines For Self-Respect Effectiveness: Keeping Respect For Yourself (FAST) Troubleshooting: When…
Living With Borderline Personality Disorder – My Ability To Self-Validate Grows When I Live In Alignment With My Values
An Unclear & Unstable Self-Concept Those with BPD struggle with having an unclear and unstable self-concept – meaning to be aware of and have a collection of beliefs – morals and values – about ourselves and how we see ourselves in the world. Therefore, if I do not know what I believe in, what my…
Living With Borderline Personality Disorder – Highlights Of DBT’s Emotional Regulation Skills
DBT & Emotional Regulation Skills Goals of Emotional Regulation: Understanding and Naming Emotions: Core Emotional Regulation Skills: Focused Emotional Regulation Skills Tidbits of Helpful Information Check the Facts How to Check the Facts: Ways To Describe Emotions Emotions That Fit The Facts Opposite Action How To Do Opposite Action: Opposite Action For Emotions Problem Solving…